(In an earlier article, we outlined the four basic principles that must be understood, the foundation upon which the methods or ideas in the how-to sections of this book – or any home management training program - must be built. These include:
- Have realistic and age-appropriate expectations.
- Establish rules or standards.
- Have a working knowledge of family discipline.
- Tie strings to their hearts.
Last time, we discussed realistic and age-appropriate expectations. We pick up here with the third principle.)
Have a working knowledge of family discipline
According to Noah Webster’s 1828 American Dictionary, to train is “to develop or mold the character, thoughts, and behavior of; to cause to grow in a desired direction; to undergo and follow a course of instruction,” and discipline is “training that molds or corrects the mind or character.” On the other hand, punishment is “penalty for an offense.” The real world operates primarily on natural or logical consequences, rather than punishment. It is important to avoid disciplining or training in anger or frustration, so that we do not sin even while we are dealing with sin in our children. The key is to always demonstrate love to them rather than harshness. Our goal is not simply repentance, but restoration of the parent-child relationship (a model of God’s goal in dealing with us, his children).Again, since this is not a book on child training, but a reminder to deal with heart issues and character issues as a foundation for home management training, I will defer to the many resources available on the subject. A partial list can be found in the back of this book.(We will highlight each of the other principles in future articles. Check back soon! Don’t want to wait to get your kids to help at home? Preview or purchase the entire book here.)
Copyright 2006, Vicki Bentley, Family Resources
Getting Kids to Help at Home
Laying a Foundation (Part Four)
(excerpted from The Everyday Family Chore System)
